Survivor Guilt: What it is and How to Cope

Survivor Guilt: What it is and How to Cope

Survivor guilt (sometimes referred to as “survivor’s guilt”, “survivor syndrome” or “survivor’s syndrome”) can take many forms. It can affect survivors of catastrophic events that took many lives; or it can affect individuals mourning an individual loss. It can be associated with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder; or it can be experienced without PTSD being present. It can be debilitating, too, but doesn’t have to be. Let’s examine survivor guilt and explore ways to cope:

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Books About Death and Dying Are Ultimately About Life and Living

Books About Death and Dying Are Ultimately About Life and Living

If you search online for “books about death and dying” you very quickly realize how many times and ways this subject has been explored and from a seemingly endless number of perspectives. And when you scan the overall landscape of books about death and dying, you reach an inescapable conclusion: these are really books about life and living. Let’s consider some of these books:

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Suicide Condolences: Finding the Right Words for Unspeakable Grief

Suicide Condolences: Finding the Right Words for Unspeakable Grief

Suicide condolences – words of sympathy shared with the grieving family of a suicide victim – are among the hardest we’ll ever have to speak or write. Finding the right words of empathy after any death can be difficult; but finding the right words after a suicide seems practically impossible when the grieving family may still be searching for answers. Let’s take a closer look:

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Words of Condolence: What to Say to Someone in Mourning (and What Not to Say)

Words of Condolence: What to Say to Someone in Mourning (and What Not to Say)

Words of condolence – the right words of condolence, that is – can seem elusive. You want to be truly sympathetic and empathetic, but you worry about saying the wrong thing or saying something well-intended in the wrong way. Oftentimes this makes us overthink and stammer our condolences. When that happens, we worry that we’ve only made the grieving worse. So are there correct words of condolence you can use? Is there a right approach for expressing your heartfelt sympathies?

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Talking to a Child About Death: Dos and Don’ts

Talking to a Child About Death: Dos and Don’ts

Talking to a child about death can cause adults stress and uncertainty. Because we know that children lack full emotional and psychological maturity, the temptation is to say nothing and hope the child won’t be affected by the loss or by adults grieving. Experts, however, agree that children deserve to be part of the conversation when a loved one dies. What should you say when talking to a child about death? Here are some widely accepted dos and don’ts:

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